Do you find yourself hiding your body underneath baggy pants and frumpy shirts?
Are you afraid to wear certain things because you don’t think you can pull them off?
When you choose clothes, are you highlighting your best features?
Ladies, it’s time to talk about clothes. I know, you must be thinking, “What? I thought she wanted us to be more comfortable being naked (sigh) seriously we have to deal with clothes too?”
Well, here’s the deal. I would love for all of us to walk around naked all the time but society says we must wear clothes. So I also want you to feel beautiful and sexy when you adorn yourself with garments.
Believe me, I am no expert in the fashion department. I am not going to tell you what to wear but what I can say is that clothes can make or break how you feel about your body. The right clothes can make you feel fabulous, sexy and confident. The wrong clothes can make you feel horrible, ugly and dumpy.
So, in my quest to find “my sexy”, I bought myself a jean miniskirt. I know this may sound ridiculous to some, after all women have worn skirts for centuries, but I have always been a pants kind of girl. In the summer, I would switch to capris (I still love them) and unless I was exercising I never wore shorts. Why? Because I was downright self-conscious of my legs. They were never good enough. Too flabby, not muscular enough, too pale…I had a million reasons I wanted them covered.
But then something amazing happened. I realized that it’s all about perception. I could listen to that nasty voice in my head telling me my legs were “less than perfect” and hide them or I could figure out how to make them work to my advantage. For me, it was taking advice from some of my close friends. “You would look great in….you should wear…this would be perfect for you.” Never underestimate the power of fashion suggestions. Many people can see what you can’t. Listen to them. Take their advice. See how you feel.
So, what happened when I put on my mini? At first it felt a bit strange. But I accompanied it with my favorite little halter tank top and my cute little flip flops. I must say that after looking into the mirror with my new ensemble, I felt great. Wonderful actually! My epiphany…I have decent legs, scratch that, I have beautiful legs and it was about time I showed them off.
My point is this. If you are feeling less than hot in your current wardrobe…it is time to change it up. Here are some of my suggestions to feel fabulous in your clothes.
- Forgo your normal attire. Be daring. Choose something you always wanted to wear and put it on. The key to this is to make sure it is in your size. Don’t try to squeeze into something too small and definitely don’t wear something too large.
- Pair it with something comfortable. Notice I said comfortable, not frumpy. What I am referring to is something that you already own that you feel good in. We all own at least one thing we feel great in, yes?
- Make sure you adorn yourself fully from head to toe. Do not, I repeat do not, wear your granny panties underneath your sexy ensemble. Wear your fancy lace bra. Dust off your cute little shoes. Wear the jewelry you save only for special occasions. Slap on some of your favorite lip gloss. You don’t need to go crazy but don’t be afraid to be bold. Do you feel me?
- Strut your stuff with confidence. Hold your head high. Believe you look amazing. Because I know you do. Remember, it is all about perception, baby! Some of the most sensual, beautiful people I know may not be what society thinks is the “perfect size” but they believe they are hot—and they exude sex appeal and everybody around them can feel it. So own it, girl!
What are you going to dare to wear? I would love to hear your stories, thoughts or suggestions.
Here’s to draping your body with hotness,