So last night I had the pleasure of interviewing Christine Arylo, the Queen of Self-Love, for The Love Your Naked Ass Warrior Series.
One of the most important promises she tells us we all need to make to ourselves is, “Always be honest with yourself, no matter what.”
You might be laughing right now thinking, “Of course, I am honest with myself. What possible reason would I have to lie?”
You’d be surprised how often we tell ourselves lies. It’s astounding.
Seriously, think about it.
Are you really happy? Or are you just settling? Do you have the relationship you want? The partner you’ve always imagined? The career of your dreams? Friends that are loving, open and supportive?
Go ahead. Ask yourself.
Dig deep into your soul and listen to what that voice, whom I lovingly named Enlightened Ella or what is commonly referred to as your intuition, says.
Have you been listening to her? Or have you been shutting her out?
If you are like me, you’ve been ignoring her messages.
In fact, you have been so consumed by fear that you’ve tried turning her off completely.
Fear? Are you thinking, “I am not afraid.”
Yes, that’s what I was telling myself too!
And truth be told, that is a big fat lie!!!
As hard as it is to publicly admit this, I do have fears.
I am scared of having to start all over again. I am afraid I am not the best Mom. And I have an unrelenting fear that I don’t deserve more.
What are your fears?
Do you find yourself staying in an unfulfilling relationship where your partner treats you like shit but do nothing because you are afraid to be alone? Are you holding on to that dead-end job that lacks passion and purpose because it gives you a steady paycheck? Do you keep those toxic people in your life because you fear if you kick them to the curb, you’d be shaking up the status quo?
It’s time to come clean.
Because all those lies you are telling yourself are complete bullshit.
Just like the ones I have been using.
If I have learned anything over the past few years, it’s this: Life is too damn short to compromise your happiness.
So today, before all of you, I am vowing to kick fear’s ass! It’s on!
“I see you fear. And I am coming for you. Watch out! You are f*cking going down!”
Do you know how refreshing that feels? Seriously, it’s like 20 pounds have been lifted off my chest.
There’s no turning back now.
I never want someone to tell me again that I am hiding. That I am playing small. I never want to be told that my momentum is stuck or my energy is stagnant because of my decisions or lack thereof.
It’s time as they say, to “shit or get off the pot.”
I am listening Enlightened Ella. I trust you will show me the way.
Are you with me?
I want to hear from you. Join me in facing your fears. Publicly identify them. Leave me a comment below and let’s kick fear’s ass together.
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Great post Kimberly!
Another FEAR (false evidence appearing real) that stops people in their tracks is comparing themselves with others. “I’m not enough” is a mantra that needs to be dissolved. You are enough to get that fabulous job, speak in front of people, date that guy… and wear that hot dress!
Love you!!
Ande
Thanks Ande. Yes, the “not enough” syndrome is a big one. I so appreciate you stopping by and lending your support. Muah! xo
Loved your post! I am afraid too! …… I’ll write the rest on my desk…..
Thanks for your support Maria! xo
Kimberly,
This was such a timely post and I so appreciate your vulnerability to announce your fears. I’m with you on that- it can be so liberating to just name it out loud and then watch the fear begin to lose it’s power. So, I’ll just go ahead and name the fear that showed up in my dream last night and is haunting me right now–
The fear of being left out, excluded! Ugh! The internet is this crazy, wonderful place and there are times that I see the connections b/w others and then understand feel a “lack of belonging.” Deep breath.
So, there it is. I appreciate what you bring to the world.
Thanks!
You have no idea Maira. My mindset has started shifting already…probably because now that I laid it out there, I have to “walk my talk.” Declaring anything to the Universe, for me, is a surefire way to get me outside of my own head and into action.
You will never be alone Maira. Trust in that. You have many, many people who rally in your corner. You can count me in for sure!
This is such an important topic for everyone, especially women, Kimberly. Love it! I’ve been on the Mama Gena train since RHH Live and being SUPER honest with myself is sometimes terrifying. What’s even scarier is speaking up (love the synchronicity btw, I just posted a quote about that on my FB page) and being really honest with others, too. I know I fear damaging relationships if I’m honest with people sometimes because you don’t know what other people’s mess is, it’s scary to put yourself out there, say what you feel and not know if they can handle it or give you the honesty back. A coach of mine says nobody learns that way though, and nobody grows by running away from things. It’s also scary to be honest when it means changing your mind or correcting course on a decision-but I’ve found these to be the best fears to face. The outcome always outweighs the temporary discomfort…and it gets easier every time
I hear you on that Liz. Here’s to be honest and open regardless of how much fear comes our way!!! xo