I’m in business to serve others.
To give back. To inspire.
I believe in investing not only in myself but also in my business.
I seek out mentors that I like, trust and believe in.
So when I was given a bag full of bullshit last week…I was pissed.
She said…
“There is nothing wrong with you. You just haven’t been taught the right way to do it.”
“I love you because I am you.”
“You must market your business from a place of authenticity, integrity and love.”
Initially I believed what she was saying.
And then I heard the pitch. Over an hour of promises.
I was left feeling icky and angry.
In the beginning of the day, I was promised value. I was promised actual ideas that I could implement.
Unfortunately all I learned were her steps to success with little to no detail…and what I got was an invitation to hand her more of my money.
She did, however, offer the room an “amazing special.”
I’m not sure how special it really was, considering you can get the same deal on her website.
So much for being special.
UGH!
What happened to all the value she promised? What happened to being authentic?
I felt duped.
And to say I was pissed was truly an understatement.
But we all know that being angry with someone else doesn’t positively fuel us.
In fact, it’s quite harmful.
So instead I am choosing to use my anger in a more productive way.
To use this experience as a reminder of who I want to be in this world and how I want to conduct business.
And its foundation will be built on service, love, and trust.
I’m not going to promise something I can’t deliver.
I’m not going to coax you to visit me, promise you value, deliver nothing and then ask for more of your money.
If I say I’m going to coach you, I will be the person who shows up.
I will never lose personal connection to you.
And I will always go beyond what is expected of me because I believe in the power of communication, collaboration and heart to heart human connection.
And sure, it might take me a bit longer to make six figures but that’s okay.
I can live with that.
What I can’t live with anymore is the crap many coaches are slinging. I’m done buying into that shit.
Don’t get me wrong, I want to make a difference in the world. I want to provide value. I want to see people SHINE.
But I’ll do it my way, thank you.
Peace,
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You go, Kimberly! And. I have no doubt you will do what you say.
PS – LOVE the new site look!
Thanks Leanne! I thought it was about time someone said something. I know I am not the only one feeling this way.
I had a few experiences like this in the past year – with women that I truly looked up to, only to be completely blown away by a lack of authenticity that they were preaching. Glad to see you had the ability to see how to best move forward for your goals.
Thanks Alicia. Unfortunately, I have experienced this more times than I can count. I think that is why I finally decided to verbalize my feelings. Thanks for stopping by.
HELL to the YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ah! Sooooo refreshing to read this, Kimberly! So many people package up elusive nothings so beautifully, that you’re tricked into thinking something mind-blowing is about to go down…only to be left with a way to spend more money to get to the next “amazing life-changer”! Kudos to you for calling BULLSHIT and using it in a positive way! I’m with you in a major way, no BS, just genuine, authentic and WOW service. And LOVE your new site! I felt like a straight-shooting badass as soon as I landed! Thanks for your raw honestly. YAY!
Thank you Eyenie! I love that you felt like a straight-shooting badass.
Yes, being tricked sucks, doesn’t it? I tried the whole trojan horse thing and honestly it never felt “right.” So I’ve decided I am going to stay true to myself…and if it takes me longer to get where I need to go, I’m cool with that. xoxo
That’s the only way Kimberly
You go girl!
Thanks Linda. I appreciate you stopping by. xo
Oh, I so know this one. I share your pain. Jenny Shih did a fantastic post about a similar feeling with online courses and using it to fuel you to create something that exceeds other expectations. I’ve had it with a coach recently who was just blah and i felt ripped off. On the other hand I’m working with one now who is unbelievably awesome. I love your take on it as far as doing it your own way. I couldn’t agree more. I think authenticity shines through everytime and I think at the end of the day it leads to a more sustainable and profitable long term business. Honesty and respect rocks!
It sure does. I’m so happy to hear you found yourself some amazing mentors. I fortunately have too but boy did I waste a lot of money finding them.
Hey Kimberly!
You make me smile. I haven’t had a coach for MONTHS & MONTHS because I need to listen to myself. I’m a smart cookie. Got enough “training” and “coaching” that everyone seems to be teaching. There were times I felt pushed into doing things, in pursuit of making a quicker buck. I’ve learned SO much from my mentors and I would do it all over again, just to learn this same lesson you mention…the bullshit bag! I have had no hesitation telling a person the program/coaching wasn’t what I signed up for and requesting a refund. I’ve also invested thousands and thousands of dollars with coaches who are amazing. I know when I’m ready for more coaching, I have a couple of reliable women I’ll turn to.
Much love to you,
Melody
I hear you Melody. I vowed that from March until August I am not hiring any new mentors and/or taking any other programs. I need to digest what I’ve learned and keep applying it. I really should have requested a refund. But I got to see a good friend and met up with family I don’t normally see so it’s cool. xo
Oh girl, I’m so sorry this happened:( Icky indeed, BUT her loss!
XO
Yes, indeed Erin! xo