Is your inner vixen in hiding? Do you know she exists but can’t for the life of you figure out why she hasn’t revealed herself? Or why she hasn’t come out to play?
I know it’s frustrating.
I know you want to have more fun, have sensational relationships and feel sexier in your own skin. Believe me, I completely understand.
I was there not too long ago myself.
There was a time I thought the answer to releasing my inner vixen was an easy fix. Wear more lingerie, do more “girly things,” act more feminine and…
POOF—she would appear.
Unfortunately, that didn’t work.
Yes, wearing lingerie, being more feminine and doing “girly things” definitely has its place. BUT it is not the answer to releasing your inner vixen. I believe these are instead tools that can enhance her experience.
The truth is, we are governed by our own unconscious and conscious habits.
Usually when a woman is having difficulty finding her “inner vixen,” it is because she is unintentionally participating in behaviors or habits that literally squander her. I say unintentional here because who willingly wants to live with these habits or behaviors:
- Obsessive insecurity
- Always being critical
- Being a comparison queen
- Always living in your head
- Refusing to allow joy into your life
- Being extra needy
- Overdramatic
- Judgmental
- Confusing communicator
Unfortunately we, as women, are especially hard on ourselves. In fact, we can become our own worst enemy. If you can relate to any of the nine behaviors above, you are NOT ALONE.
The good news is…you can shift all of these habits around.
With awareness and some very easy-to-implement ideas/tools, you can learn to control these behaviors and stop them in their tracks when they try to rear their ugly heads.
So where do you start?
If you ever want your inner vixen to see the light of day, I suggest getting a handle on these two very important habits/behaviors.
Stop Living From Your Head
We live far too much of our lives in our heads. We constantly are questioning our decisions, our feelings, our desires, our wants and our needs. We allow our “inner critical bitch” to take over and to saturate our minds with these negative thoughts that keeps us stuck in our heads.
When what we really NEED is to start thinking from our body, our pelvis (where the pleasure center exists), our heart.
Give yourself permission to trust your feelings. Let them guide you. Your gut will give you the answers. When you have the overwhelming feeling of “Yes, go for it!” Do it! If your gut is hesitate, sending you icky signals, listen to it…perhaps whatever is at stake is not the right choice for you.
Your gut feelings hold great wisdom—they are always trying to tell you something. It is your job to learn to listen to them. Your gut may provide you with information to help you honor your own self-worth. Or it may be able to shed some light on how you can expand your horizons, who or what you need to let go of or forgive; or illuminate those in your life that don’t value who you are.
When you start listening and honoring your “gut feelings” and you get out of your head, your inner vixen will appear. She may not stay but she now has a door to walk through.
Stop Stacking Yourself Up Against Every Other Woman
Ah…so you are a comparison queen? It’s okay. I admit I was one too!
And there is nothing worse than comparing yourself to other people. It can literally derail you and it definitely does not allow you to put your best foot forward. Comparing yourself to other women will lock down your inner vixen indefinitely.
So what do you do if you are the queen of comparison?
Well, first you MUST take responsibility for the fact that you do, indeed, compare yourself to others. Then, you must look at the WHY. Why do you stack yourself up against the others? What do they have that you feel you are lacking? Don’t be afraid to come clean. We have all been here. Does she have the relationship you want? The looks? The job? Does her life appear easier? Sexier? Happier?
It will be okay. This is just a sign you need a big boost of self-esteem.
How do you get this?
Celebrate YOURSELF. And embrace those women as friends, rather than enemies. Women are powerful creatures and together as a team, they are unstoppable. When feminine energy is brought together in a loving way….amazing things can unfold. Remember, there is more than enough space in the world for everyone. Appreciate and love your fellow females and watch how that action softens your own grip on your need to compare.
When you develop appreciation for yourself and for others, your inner vixen will start to surface.
Isn’t it time you stop this madness?
You can do it! I know you can because I did and I honestly thought it wasn’t possible.
More fun awaits. Better relationships are the gift—both with yourself and others. Feeling wonderful in your own skin is the amazing byproduct.
What are waiting for? Join me!
2012 is the year your inner vixen comes out and stays.
Can’t wait to see you,
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Living in my head, I do it often!! Rock on Kimberly! I can’t wait to see how you impact our world!
Thanks Michelle! We all live in our head from time to time. We need to become aware of it so we can shift out of it. xo